One of my favorite things about kink being far more mainstream now than it was when I was a young kinkster is the kink/fetish/BDSM fashion.
We see it more and more in places like Fashion Week in NYC, Paris & Milan.
Kink fashion even made its way into a 2015 Super Bowl ad, for pistachios of all things!
By all accounts, it was the first of it’s kind to say “Dominatrix” in the ad let alone show one in action. I believe this mainstream ad may have been a catalyst that set designers & manufacturers on fire to emulate our scene-wear. Which, in turn, was the start of more kinky fashion choices for us.
Well, for some of us.
Although kink fashion had become more readily available, much of it had been designed for the stereotypical tall, thin, long-legged Dominatrix. It’s only in more recent years that we’ve seen a broader selection for all body types, especially ‘thick’ kinksters like me.
Case in point, back in 2015-ish, I pinned my hopes on an Amazon corset that indicated ‘plus’ sizes available. I’m very bottom-heavy and needed a corset that offered enough room to fit my upper booty curvature. Knowing the sizes were likely WAY off, I went with the largest size offered, figuring I could alter it down pretty easily. No surprise, it was too small. WAY too small.
In that moment, I knew plus sized, non-specialized fetish wear hadn’t quite made it to mainstream shopping just yet.
But, today? Today is a whole new world.
Manufacturers are finally catching on that making correct sizes for everyday women is profitable. It took my entire lifetime, but, it’s finally here. We can pick up our phones and have choices of kink fashion at our fingertips.
Which brings me to my downtime. It often consists of sitting with my mom for 45 minutes to make sure she takes all of her meds and doesn’t choke in the process. I’ve gotten into a rhythm where I use that time to scroll Amazon for plus-size kink fashion. I began posting my finds on my Twitter (@MistressKye) and IG (@MistressKye) but soon realized my feeds were getting overloaded with kink fashion posts.
So, it dawned on me to just start creating blog posts, each with a handful of fun, kink fashion items for curvy kinksters & Dommes like me.
This is the inaugural blog post in a series called ‘Kink Fashion For Curvy Dommes.’
I hope you enjoy the goodies I’ve found!
*It should be noted that the links to these items are for my Amazon Affiliates account. This affiliate account doesn’t really earn much. But, it helps offset expenses for a home I donate as a safe house for domestic violence victims.
Feax Leather Wrap Skorts
WHY I LIKE:
The overlap always hides that pesky lower abdominal region. For me, that area is my nemesis.
Second, the top part of the overlap is off-kilter leading the eye down and away from the abdominal while ALSO creating a trick-of-the-eye triangular effect which is always slimming.
V shape is a fashion staple to slim and flatter curvy types.
Lastly, skorts. Sometimes, in a mini skirt, I’m constantly worried about exposing my hoooch. Skorts are perfect, they look like a mini, but hide the goods.
Leather Look Zip-Up Corset
WHY I LIKE:
Zip front. Easy on and off. Period.
Corsets are struggle enough most of the time. Spend your energy on better things than struggling with a corset.
Second, it’s sleek. Visually, we humans like curves. Easy, smooth curves with no disruptions is an observers dream scenario. This corset accommodates that.
Faux leather. No animals were harmed.
Lastly, hourglass, hourglass, hourglass. We all desire it. Hourglass gives us the good feels. Every Domme should have a corset.
FAUX LEATHER LONG SKIRT W/ RUFFLES
WHY I LIKE:
We should always be celebrating our curves.
This does exactly that w/ 60% polyester, 40% spandex.
What I like even more is that it starts like a snuggly pencil skirt, but then moves into fun ruffles.
Speaking of the ruffles-they give good texture. They also keep it from being too pencil skirt-ish, which can optically over-inflate hips. If you’re already hippy, this skirt will balance you out.
Length. It can elongate. Sometimes, for me, a mini makes me look stubby.
The irregular hemline of angled ruffles creates drama which can be a great distraction AND a perfect accent of playfulness.
Pearls. What a nice pop of something different. Pretty, a little theatrical but not heavy and overpowering. Just the right amount of ‘extra.’
PLUS SIZED WET-LOOK LONG GLOVES
WHY I LIKE:
I’ve not seen too many plus size long gloves and I’m thrilled to have found these.
Not only are they aesthetically pleasing, complimentary and sending a subluminal message of higher station, they can make our arms look sleek, seductive and mysterious.
Many kinksters and fetishists LOVE wet-look. It’s a BDSM staple in kink fashion that even non-fetishists really enjoy.
Slapping lands differently with gloves. Especially wet-look gloves. The sound and feel enhances the ambiance of your scene.
Plus, what submissive doesn’t love to have their face clutched with a gloved hand?
PLUS SIZE STRAPPY THIGH HARNESS
WHY I LIKE:
Harnesses are almost always made for very thin folks. It’s just recently that I’m seeing many more options for more traditional body types.
Harnesses are becoming a favorable kinky fashion accessory. They can be worn on the skin as in this image, OR over stockings, latex, wet-look leggings, catsuits, etc.
They can also draw the eye to accentuate waste and lower body ‘assets.’ For bottom heavy gals like me, I sometimes like to show off my small waist and thunder thighs. Conversely, my BFF likes to use a thigh harness like this to add lower-body visual ‘weight’ to balance off her large boobies.
Wide Calf Boots
WHY I LIKE:
I love these boots for several reasons:
- Elastic calf material fits perfectly to nearly every calf size
- Elastic gives boots a fashionable 2 tone look
- Sturdy 3″ heel. Keyword, STURDY
- Buckles, Buckles, Buckles
- Thick sole adds about 1/2″ height
- They’re comfortable for long kink scenes, play parties, conventions
- If you’re a thick thigh gal, this boot height adds a smidge of thickness to your lower legs creating one long smooth line downward – symmetry.
I hope you enjoyed the selection in this post. Much more to come!
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